Flirting With a Guy Over Text – How To Up Your Sexting Game

a woman on her cell phone sending a messageIf you’re in a committed relationship or perhaps there’s someone you have your eye on but the two of you haven’t quite got together yet, then a little flirting to help things along is one of the most fun stages of a relationship.

We flirt in many different ways; through our body language, with our eyes, our words and yes, of course, with our text messages too!

In this article, we will give you some hot tips you can use to up your flirting game, get the other person thinking of you when your not around and dying to see you with some simple and seductive text messages.

Top Flirting Tips While Messaging

When to flirt text

a woman using her cell phoneWhen it comes to flirt texting, also known as “sexting“, the timing of which you send your messages is very important. If you know your partner or love interest is super busy then this is not a good time to be sexting. Instead, choose your moments wisely.

It can often be a safe bet to send a flirty little message first thing in the morning just before they wake up.

This way your message will be one of the first things they see in the morning and can go a long way to put a smile on their face. If they’re still in bed when they read your message then they may start to feel turned on while they’re thinking of you and therefore, start to imagine you in bed with them.

Night time sexts are also great as it is more likely they will be in a relaxed frame of mind if they don’t work night shifts.

If neither of you are working during the evening then your messages may lead to a little back and forth naughty texting action, which is really fun!

However, if you are already in a relationship with your partner and you know their schedule fairly well, then it can also be safe to send a flirty little message during the day to get them thinking of you.

It is much less likely you will get a reply straight away from him as he may be busy with work commitments. So don’t worry if they don’t get back to you for a few hours.

Here is a good article with more detail on when to start sexting someone.

Related article: How to improve your texting skills fast

What to say

If you’re new to flirting with your love interest, ie, you’re either not in a relationship yet our the relationship has just begun, then start off with something a bit more subtle and test their reaction.

If he seems to like your flirty antics then you can up the ante a little based on their response.

Starting off subtly, you may use messages like;

  • “Hey, I was just thinking of you and wondering what you’re wearing..?”

If you want to be a bit more forward you can say something like;

  • “Mmm, you looked so hot last night, I’m biting my bottom lip thinking about you right now”

If you’re in a relationship with him or you’ve already gotten to the hot and steamy stage then sending them something a bit more raunchy can often go down well;

  • “I’m sitting at my desk, I’m supposed to be working but I’m getting wet thinking of you…”

See also: More relationship text messages here

Use questions

Using questions are a great way to get the flirty conversation going with text messages. It put’s the ball in their court and you get to see what they come back with, which will give you something to go on with your reply.

Asking questions also gives you the opportunity to gauge their comfort level with sexting so you will know where to go next with your messages to get them turned on.

Some good questions can be;

  • “If I were there with you right now, what would you want to do to me…?”
  • “What’s the hottest thing you’ve ever done with a woman?”
  • “If I could fill your deepest, darkest fantasy, what would you imagine us doing together?”

With this last one, we’re also using the word “imagine” to actually get them to think about doing all those naughty things with you, rather than saying, “If I could fill your deepest, darkest fantasy, what would it be?” The first example using the word “imagine” is much more powerful.

See also: How do guys text when they like you – find out here


Flirting with your text messages can be a lot of fun. You can use them to gauge your partners comfort level and to prime the pump ready to push your encounters to the next level or even into the bedroom if you are both at that stage.

It is important to time your messages well so they will be in a much more receptive place to play back with you. Start off subtle if you don’t know them too well yet and build up based on their responses.

If you already know them well, have been intimate with them or if you are already in a relationship with them then you may want to go straight into the more raunchy stuff straight away to get their pulse racing and excited to see you.

Here are a few funny replies to flirty text messages that didn’t work out so well. This is even more reason to get it right!

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